This answer may stir controversy, but I think it's important to put it out there.
If I can't personally help someone "qualify" him or herself, I suggest going to an open meeting (or several open meetings) to see if he or she can relate. If so, great -- you're probably alcoholic and in the right place. If you can't relate, or if you believe yourself not to be alcoholic, you probably don't need AA. And, if you're not alcoholic and can stay sober by some other means than the steps, those in the rooms probably won't be able to relate to you. Worse, if you're not alcoholic and you're sharing some other means you use to stay sober, you can adversely influence the newcomer looking for an easier, softer way.
Go, read the book, talk to another alcoholic, listen to people sharing. If you decide you're an alcoholic, great. Stick around and we'll help you. If you decide you're not alcoholic, why would you want to spend your time in AA?
Peace & Love,
Sugah