I can understand they are saying "why can't they stop" just as some people say " pull your socks up" to people who are depressed ,and for the weak and scared it puts them ahead makes them superior !!
I will never deny my problems with drink but I will not be defined to others by it either.
Oh and I'm a popular guy around bars with the guys from my small town told them straight Im not drinking right now!Some say great and leave it there others say yeah a rest is good but none to my face has said anything upsetting but If I bored them senseless about drinking and everything I bet I'd be seeing a lot of people's backs.
I do know now though that if anyone asked for help and I could I would make time if I could
As we always made time for drink.
John