THere is no shame in being an alcoholic, or an addict, or whatever.
Everyone is addicted to something. It's details, I had an addiction to a psyche med, I got off it and spent alot of time blaiming my doctor for addciting me to it. Took no responsibilty for my own recovery, once I admitted to myself I was an addcit, my recovery was a lot easier.
It's semantics, I personally don't care. If you do something everyday, and it has a big effect on your family, your friends , you life, it's addcition or a problem or an issue. Unfortunately when you are the only participating in the behavior, it does somehow become you against them.
The hurt that addcition causes the people who love you is unreal.