Thank you everyone again...I do think AH has this major desire to one day be able to "control" his drinking. He is supposed to be attending one meeting a day and reading from the big book. Within two weeks he has attended two meetings and I haven't seen the book move off the shelf. I think he is in denial still and only went to treatment to make me think he is trying. I am working on cleaning up my own mess and learning my own recovery, in which I can't risk him going back to drinking again and being around me, I am just not stable enough for that right now. I agreed to let him come back home after Rehab if he was activly working on recovery and I just can't help but shake the feeling that one beer was the first step to the internal "well one beer is ok today", tomorrow " Well two beers are ok" and so on thinking.
This lady is Finding an Al-anon meeting for today and reading posts on here to get her thru. Thanks for the support! :ghug3