Hugs. I've been exactly where you are. Its tough (understatement). Unfortunately by the sounds of it your AH is pretty deep. Losing weight was the first thing I noticed. As much as I loved my AH (still do) iwasnt powerful enough to fix him...he got progressively worse and I finally got him out of the house. It is scary to think about doing it all on your own but you will be surprised what you are capable of. Do what is best for you and your daughter. Quit worrying about him. He is a big boy.