anvilhead......you are right on a lot of accounts..we haven't been married that long....I am still carrying baggage, which is why I wanted to post this - to a certain extent I wanted to know if I was being overly paranoid.
I read his text messages out of fear, I will be honest about that. But.....he has said repeatedly that all phone messages / facebook communications, etc is up for grabs for all becasue he wants everything to be open, so I have to assume (yes I know what that does) that he doesn't feel these messages are in anyway hurtful. Leads me back to the "maturity" index for RAs.....
No.....other than this one issue with this ex, he has done nothing that is untrustworthy......