AH: "I'll admit that I have some issues, but so do you. IF I decide to change, how do I KNOW that you will stop X, Y, Z (insert all of the usual - controlling, nagging, more sex, be more fun, etc)? It feels like such a gamble to just assume you will change if I do. Why do I have to be the bigger person and change first?"
Another one...
AH: (shows up unannounced at my door days after I move out) "I just wanted to stop by to tell you how sorry I am and that I want you to move back in."
Me: "Ok, why do you want me to move back in? What has changed? What is different there for me?"
AH: "I just really miss you and want you there."
Doesn't this sound like someone ready for recovery?!
