Sort of OT, but not really, I was wondering about the not causing injury part myself - I am only very early on in my steps (about to start writing my 4) and I know that there are things that I could make amends for but that would deeply hurt my husband - shameful secrets from the really crazy days... I realise that these could cost me my marriage, which I truly don't want to lose, which also makes me think I am being selfish in not confessing to them... argh... I guess I can work this out with my sponsor, but I was just hoping for more clarity on this part of the process.
Sorry for rambling and sorry for hijacking the thread a little...