DoinThis,
There is nothing wrong with doing this thing for someone else, particularly family. I did this myself initially, and I make no apologies for it. Some people sacrifice their lives for their families, after all. It becomes a problem when we expect them to hold us accountable or keep us sober, because it is a burden few can carry. Generally speaking, the burden should not be on others, but rather on ourselves. As you stated, simply keeping them in your heart is the way to go. This is my opinion, to be sure, but it is born of experience.