Originally Posted by
Sapling 
I think letting her know and accepting support is a great idea...asking for her to help hold him accountable...That doesn't sit right with me....
Not only should it not sit right with anyone, but it is utterly absurd. If you are the spouse, who likely has been harmed by drinking, what would you think about your partner coming to you and saying the following?
"Honey, I'm really done with drinking for good this time, but I need you to look over my shoulder, babysit me, and hold me accountable so that I don't get drunk again."
You would understandably be a little suspicious about them actually being done with drinking, no?