Hi Chance
Many of our members have spouses and partners who drink - it can make things harder perhaps, but it need not be a deal breaker for our recovery.
I agree with Dorito that we can't control what someone else does....
My experience is I drank my way through 2 relationships...it wasn't that I didn't care enough (or at least I didn't feel that way at the time)...I was addicted and in denial, both about my problem and my indispensability to my partner...I soon came crashing down on both scores.
I think the real issue here is you finding a way to focus on your own recovery...maybe finding more support is the answer?...
Only you can decide whether you really feel your partner is hindering you...& only you can then decide what you want to do about it, really.
D