Originally Posted by
December2011 
Hmmm, I know therapists have recommended handing over the credit cards with gambling addictions.
I would think in the infancy of recovery maybe it is a good idea for him to hand over his cash and cards, but if he starts begging for them, and gives you a hard time…or it goes on too long. Maybe it isn’t the best idea.
Also, he should be doing other things like counseling, meetings etc… there are reasons why he turned to drugs, and he must deal with those.
I think his loner cold turkey plan is likely to fail. I might tell him you will hold the money, but he must get additional help, and the second he bugs you about it giving him money; the deal is off.
Just my opinion.
Thanks for the advice.
I will take this issue with the card day by day, I've discussed the not wanting to treat him like a card and he has said he feels this is the better way at the moment.
If he wants it back I will give it back without argument or judgement and hope that if this is because he wants to use that the lapse might lead him to seek other help but I know it has to be his choice.
I have seen a change in the way he views his DOC, now I know the cynics will say he is just telling me what I want to hear but it feels different so I want to treat it as different.
He is a person first and foremost and an addict second and that is the way I have to see it - I don't want to start referring to him as 'my addict' as then I am ignoring all the other things that he is - human, friend, artist, lover, funny, generous, etc.
Thanks as always to everyone who takes the time to comment - I wish you all a great day
