Your post initially made me feel very angry. I knew I needed to take a step back and think for a moment before I responded.
I've been a lurker on this site for months and just joined recently.
This site has been vital to me understanding the extent of my problem with alcohol. I found this site in a moment of desperation. I was laying in bed alone... sweating, angry, feeling hopeless and I was convinced everyone else on earth was ok with alcohol and I was the only person that felt this way and drank how I did. And I searched and found this site and my life has been changed ever since.
Congrats that your situation worked out the way it did.
I've never thought of anyone on this site to be "broken and bitter". If anything I want to consume the knowledge and experiences that they BRAVELY share.
I hope you see that people on this site where only looking out for your gf's best intrests. And if you really love her that should make you feel warm inside not angry.
Just my opinion.
PS- Every individual is ultimately responsible for the decisions that they make.
But I