Tuffgirl so very very true, regret it took me so long to learn, it gets better slowly minute to minute hour by hour, suddenly i am 7 months free and planning for future.
learnt i could have never changed him and looking after DD lots of support here its been godsend to me!
learning could never change him gave me the scary freedom to put us first and leave, he living same life but without us, been replaced by several partners so far all who gave him more in short time than i ever did in all my years with him, am not the woman he needs as i am no longer there!
slowly slowly becoming the person i need to be. have little in life just me, DD, food and support but have peace in myself never knew what that was till now.
sorry for long ramble ........
it gets better look after yourself, eat, sleep read and give yourself time.
