Hi Caz, I am breaking up with my ABF at this moment, and it has been long and hard process. Together 6 years, the last 4 have been me trying to change him and control his drinking. He can only do it himself. Some days are good, and there is hope, other days it just goes back to the same crap. I am amazed how many people are going though the same thing with our loved ones. Is there really that much addiction out there? I feel like alcoholics/addicts would just self destruct if they did not have a stable partner, but that could just be my co-dependent thinking. It is the biggest struggle trying to convince yourself that being alone and happy is better than in a dysfunctional relationship. Keep coming back to this forum, it is wonderful!!! We are all with you in this struggle, maybe different situations/intensities, but we all share a common thread..... addiction/CAN'T STOP USING. It will only get worse.