Hi Holly and welcome, glad you're here! I didn't hit a bottom. I had a really good life, a loving and supportive husband and a lucrative career. (Unlike you,though, I started drinking when I was young to numb the pain of an abusive childhood) But as I got older and sloooooowly but surely built a safer life for myself, I came to wonder why I couldn't just stop drinking. I had all I wanted, I was living my dream, why couldn't I just put down the glass?
I decided to ignore the mental health aspects at the beginning, and just stop drinking. After 2 weeks of white-knuckling it I checked out my first AA meeting. I felt ready then (and excited, actually) to begin looking inside myself to learn about my long-time frenemy alcohol. Now I see that my "really good" life was ok, but that sober life, really living life, is beyond-words-unbelievably-awesome.
I don't think you have to "hit a bottom." You can stop digging anytime.