Maybe just look at how drink affects you. I don't think comparing ourselves to others is useful, other than to convince ourselves that we aren't that bad so let's have a drink. I don't even think about WHY I drank(other than because I loved the effect it had on me)-I just concentrate on the fact that it leads to bad things/out of control behaviour. If I don't drink these things don't happe
Think about what hasn't happened YET
- you've not abused your husband yet
- he hasn't got so fed up of your drinking and resultant behaviour yet
- he hasn't left you because of your drinking yet
- you haven't messed up your career because of your drinking yet
- you haven't neglected your children yet and had social services/welfare intervene in their lives yet
I've done some of the above/had others happen and no doubt would have done others if I'd continued drinking. If I stop drinking they won't happen