me too Anvil...
in fact I came back from my "5 day homemade rehab" (my sis and I out of town at my parents with no drinks and 4 AA meetings) and bartended for two months at a brand new bar...crazy busy surrounded by booze and drunks. This while I was also writing a business plan for a new restaurant.
I think the best experience I can share is, (over the last six years of sobriety and two years of loving an addict and working on my codependency), my biggest lesson has been to refuse to deal with "egg shells", I live with transparency and honesty to self.
express yourself, your expectations..."unexpressed expectations are premeditated resentments"...that does NOT mean that it is wrong to have expectations! discover what they are, express them...check in with others on whether they are reasonable, and TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE.