"You've made his problem yours"
I came here because of RABF, but I stayed because of issues with my parents.
Reading about alcoholism and codependency has helped me understand myself and how I relate to other people.
About a few months ago, my mom was all hyped-up about a book she had read called Boundaries. Talking about how important it is to know how not to be manipulated by my father, etc. Well, I jumped right in with telling her all this stuff I had learned about manipulation and alcoholism. After awhile she interrupts me with, "I'm going to say something and it's probably going to make you mad. This whole conversation has been about alcoholism. You've taken HIS (bf) problem and made it yours."
Have I really? By educating myself?