Making direct amends the AA way means not doing 'simply apologies' no matter how honestly felt.
Amends means setting things as right as possible with the persons who have been wronged. Sometimes direct amends are not possible and so living amends can perhaps suffice which means that the offender has taken responsibility for the offences and wrongs and has changed their lives to not repeat those wrongs.
It is vitally important the the person receiving the amends wants to be contacted and involved with the process. It cannot be at their expense emotionally or mentally or otherwise of course.
Making amends is not about getting honest, clearing our side of the street by confessing this and that, and saying "I'm sorry"
And sometimes the best amends that are made is when the persons who have been wronged are simply left alone after they have been contacted because they simply wish it so. They do not have to agree to the process and that is best respected. It is not proper to attempt to convince anybody to accept the amends processs.
Work with your sponsor absolutely and with the Big Book for directions.
