Dee is right- what does your sponsor say? When i got to steps 8 and 9- working the previous steps meant that my sponsor knew enough about me to act as a trusted guide... He was capable of telling me when he sensed it was 'only' fear stopping me and when he thought he could detect motives other than me cleaning my side of the street....
And he definitely called me out when i was really trying to manipulate myself into the 'victim' chair...
kinda valuable , those sponsors...