As a member of AA myself, I second what Laurie says.
I have to remind myself of this often because my sober fiance has pretty much stopped going to AA for lots of reasons, some valid and some not some much (but that's just my opinion).
The fact is, his recovery is his ..... the only reason I feel I would need to make a change is if his behavior changes in a bad way or of course if he starts drinking, etc. Aside from that, I'm going to focus on my own recovery.....even if it is difficult some times.