Hmm, well you posted on my other thread about getting sober without AA. My AH was sober for 15 years, but I think he was just a dry drunk. Passive aggressive, blew up at the smallest things, blamed me for things that weren't my fault, depressed, anxious, and very angry at the world. He always had a poor poor pitiful me outlook on the world. And, this is why I asked about being sober without AA because he never worked a true recovery plan, he just quit drinking.
So, I guess I can't say that I was happy with a dry drunk. But, there may be others out there with a better story than mine. I'm looking for input on this, as well. I'm sorry you are struggling, you are not alone.