Hi there I'm new here and this thread immediately caught my eye.
I have a similar problem.
A certain friend still expects me to come to the pub and says "oh you don't have to drink" whilst they are sitting there getting drink after drink. Heck this pal said "oh but I need to get laid " (classy) in regards to us going to gay bars. Terribly selfish and in all honesty I am beginning to think she has a problem too. All this pal and other want to do is go to the pub.
I have suggested we go to do other things. Go for a walk to the park, a museum, a cafe, indoor rock climbing, bowling, swimming, or to each others place for movies and popcorn. Why must socializing involve bars and alcohol? I realized aside from the fact I have a problem a main reason we drink is because its terribly boring sitting in a bar sober. I just wish she would get the fact I am an addict and her pressuring me into going to bars is incredibly selfish.