Thanks for your comments.
I have now cancelled the planned visit from my friends. At least that way my AH can't mess me around.
Feeling very low.
My MIL now wants to come and have coffee (and no doubt plead her son's case). She is a sweet lady but son can do no wrong in her eyes. One of the times we were having problems she suggested that I wasn't loving enough!
Also, I have been asked to go on a girls night out next week. I would love to go but don't really feel I can because even if I got a babysitter (which is too expensive really) I don't want her to get stuck with AH because who knows when he will actually come home.
I have told quite a few people we are splitting up now but I haven't told many the reason why. I still think some people think I am lying/exaggerating his drinking but then they are not in my shoes.
I just have to keep going I suppose.