minnie

Alexia,

I have exactly the same problem. My A b/f has been drinking for the whole of our 3 year relationship, bar the past 6 weeks. I can't even begin to describe the problems we have had, but I'm sure you've all been there. He is following no programme and had just decided to stop drinking. I am now under constant pressure to forget the past 3 years and start afresh. I find that impossible to do just now and am concentrating on my own recovery. He just won't give me the emotional space to do this. Having said that, we started couples counselling last week and I went to my first Al-anon meeting last night, so we may be on the right track.

I understand that guys tend to be task orientated and so may find it easier to move on, although I am struggling to not think that it is just another form of denial.

Trying to keep it simple. It's exhausting, though.