Alcoholism is deadly. For most of us, it will rob us of our sanity, health, financial security, jobs and relationships before it gives us that last acute horrific death. Some of us will go faster due to accidents or suicide.
And I put that in the most simple literal language I could. No drama, no exaggeration.
If you got that diagnosis with a physical/medical condition, would you treat it? how far would you go? Would you at least attempt to use any of several methods that have proved effective in other people with that condition?
Some of us would say no. Some of us would say yes. But that is pretty much the situation.
Most of the people here are not judgemental, many are tee totalers because their lives depend on it. Nearly all of us have been in a situation very very similar to your own, and many of us have gone farther down the tubes than you have.
People here aren't preaching, they are sharing their own experiences with others, who have self identified by coming to this site in the first place.
That's pretty much the lay of the land.