Unfortunately, many in AA believe that making amends is to apologize for things done wrong. As I have said earlier, to amend is to change. We need to change our behavior. The step does say not to make amends if it would harm others. Unfortunately, there are many in AA that do not fully comprehend. It would be nice if there were leaders who had been trained and could advise in a professional manner, but this violates AA's tradition of being "forever non-professional" .