when we get sober & feel like never before, we are raw with little to no coping skills.
My exepreince has been there are numerous clear detailed paths to follow to change, get the coping skills and grow.
I found mine in AA and have changed like I never would have dreamed. You need to have hit your bottom, be willing to take some direction and surrender to your way.
AA has outlined for me a way to apply solid principles as a way of life to have a good life. I thought that was all bull when I first heard it.....but now I live it.
You can too...it is all in the literature availble to you. Simply going to meetings did not get me to this point. I needed more than that. Continue reaching out for help!!