WTBH-
I knew I was healing when I realized that I thought my exs new wife had done me some kind of cosmic favor by coming into our life. I said it in all seriousness to someone who laughed outloud (I was not attempting to be funny). It made me laugh too though after hearing that and it has been a lighthearted though ever since (even when I have to engage and he makes me mad).
It is amazing what a different perspective can do for us. Some perspective and some time can work wonders.