Hi Irish Dad,
Welcome to Sober Recovery.
I am the mother of 2 addict sons. One is 31, the other 26. The youngest is currently in court ordered rehab.
Mr. Moose and I tried, in the past, counselors, therapists, juvenile court, judges, police, hospitalizations, medications, you name it, we've tried it all. I gave it my best shot, anyway.
Unfortunately, it took ME a long time to realize that I was powerless.
That I could NOT fix my sons.
Now, I have the number of a rehab next to the phone, also an address of a shelter, and the salvation army number. IF my oldest should call asking for help, it is there.
The one thing I would do if I were in your shoes, is to create a united front. As her parents, you should be on the same page, and have the same plan, and the same boundaries.
And I would also encourage her to continue with her counselor, or therapist if she is open to that idea.
It's tough, my heart aches for you.
Please post and keep us up to date.
Alot of parents are also on the naranon forum.
Hugs and prayers coming your way.....
P.S. PLEASE remember, it was nothing you did as parents to have your child use drugs.