Just know you aren't alone and others do care. Don't give up on the forum. We can't all see thing exactly the same way considering we are in different places in our lives. I have thought these same thoughts....even after years, but my head tells me to stop "helping".
It's the fear of what will happen when we do that prevents us from doing that. I spent so much to keep my son from ruining his life. It's ruined anyway. I always thought my son would be the one who would be different. Well, he is still alive, but that's about it. Alive with no life.
Just do what you feel is best, keep reading the sticky posts and any other literature on the subject you can find. Also think about the consequences that YOU will face and if there are children in your future, the consequences THEY would face. Protect yourself.
I care.