Tuffgirl,
You are very dear to me, I was being an a$$, I was projecting my own crap onto all of this stuff. I am sorry I hijacked your thread with my own issues.
I should be more sensitive to the fact that her death was painful for alot of folks here, I guess part of it is that I was about 5 minutes from death when I had my accident back in 2007 and I just struggle with people who throw life away.
Please know I am so very sorry about your brother, I hope he finds his way to good health someday.
Big hugs to you, thank you for being by friend.
Bill