Yes we are great, what can we do about it
Your posts sound like mine when I joined. Everything was about a HIM.
Always giving but never receiving.
Alanon-therapy-SR and Melody Beatty books such as "Codependent no more" are recommended. I even went to some AA meetings as a quiet listener and understood way more about alcoholism and what I was infront of. Knowing truly recovered alcoholics helped me a great deal. Alanon I never tried but I know it helps many people here.
Now I live in terms of myself, my tastes, my needs and preferences and in terms of fairness and equality when giving and receiving. This has brought healthier outlooks in life. I am far from healthy but this has been progress!
Codependency is when we let others, anyone really (alcoholic or not) cloud how we live our day. It is treatable
I also know there are CODA meetings out there but I have never tried it. When I read more about codependency it all started to make sense. Your bf has his life, who is focusing on yours? it is of equal value.
Finally the Sticky section on top of the forum has great articles, the "Classic reading" has many you might find useful.
Hugs!