Welcome Falling
sometimes it's best to forget about the label and ask ourselves 'is my drinking causing problems for me?'
If the answers yes, then it's best to do something about it.
I didn't like conflict either and I had people who loved me but criticized everything I did - I had to learn to not to put as much store in what other people thought of me and focus instead on what I knew was good for me.
It all stems from not drinking in my experience...once I started working on my drinking problem, I began to put myself on a footing where I could start to deal with the other stuff too
You'll find a ton of support and understanding here
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