I can really relate to that. My mother-in-law is the same way. As a matter of fact, after my AH's recent DUI (again), she refused to believe he was drunk while driving, or that he is an alcoholic. She even tried to discourage him from going to AA because she was afraid he would loose his job (go figure, he's already in trouble because of the DUIs if they find THAT out). In the past she has blamed me for his drinking, saying I didn't spend enough time with him, and that was supposedly why he drank. Well, he has her fooled AGAIN. He says he has changed, but I know him so well and can tell when it's all an act. It might be the fact that my mother-in-law doesn't want to admit her son is an alcoholic or it is the fact that she is a HUGE co-dependent.