adipsia said:
Put another way, forgiveness is less about what you're doing for the other party, it's actually what you're doing for yourself.
i find this dangerous reasoning, as subtly, it makes forgiveness a selfish act, which it is not.
i will agree that one of the
side-effects of
true forgiveness is that it liberates the one bestowing it.
forgiveness flows from an open, loving heart towards the one who has caused us pain.
true forgiveness comes from a position of understanding, and from that understanding, compassion for the state of our brother who has harmed us.
if forgiveness flows from a point of consideration of one's self, the same beautiful energy flow, release and Grace can not occur. it would be more an act of self-preservation, than a virtue.
"to give is to receive"