Originally Posted by
jamaicamecrazy 
I struggle to detach with love and Let Go and Let God. I know those are valuable tools for me and I have used them in the past.
I don't want this to sound preachy or like I'm a tub-thumping, bible-basher but real love is about letting go.
Love is about you surrendering all of your attachments to what is - God, if you like - and having no investment in the outcome. If you're struggling, then you haven't let go and by extension this can't be real love.
I may be criticised for what I'm about to say, but I'll say it any way. You'll know when you've truly let go when you hear on the familial grapevine that he has had a drink, and can feel as neutral about it as when I say to you that this afternoon I had a cup of tea.
Best wishes,
Peter