It's good to understand that alcoholism is a mental illness, at least that's where the American Medical Association puts it. I had to work like a demon to change my old behavior, my thinking, so I didn't drink again. I had a wonderful shrink. Steps four and five helped me to see what my character effects are. I had to understand that I am responsible for everything I do and have done. Most of all it takes brutal honesty.
Change happens, I'm blessed to be given great tools and loving people on my path.