Dear FA, you are not alone. Thanks for posting and sharing your feelings. The decisions I make today about events surrounding the Super Bowl aren't decisions I make for my whole marriage.
My kids are choosing to go to my RAH apartment to watch the Super Bowl. As far as I know there will be no drinking. He invited me to come and I declined. I am not comfortable enough in my own recovery or where he is at in recovery to go over and watch the Super Bowl when I can be comfortable in my home "watching" it with a friend.
One day at a time and today just happens to include the Super Bowl and all the A activities that are sometimes packaged with it.
Not supporting anything but at least your AH has the common sense to stay over and not drink and drive.
It sounds like you don't condone irresponsible drinking, and that is why you are not going with him or asking him to stay home with you. That sounds like a strong and courageous choice to me. Enjoy watching the Super Bowl with your son today.
Hugs to you.