Originally Posted by
Krystal32 
.....should he slip and decide to go back down that road of lying and manipulating I would not hesitate to pull my children and myself out of that situation cause I refuse to expose them to that type of lifestyle.
"I refuse to expose my children to someone who lies and manipulates people" is a solid and healthy boundary. When and if exposed to a lying/manipulative behavior "I will remove myself and children from the situation" is how
to take responsibility for our boundary.
An attempt to control another's behavior usually begins with " you will/ will not...or else". Attempts to control seek to put someone else in charge.
It's a subtle and critical shift in our own thinking.