Oh I totally agree there is no way to think yourself out of it. I had life all figured out "intellectually" by the time I was twenty, lol. Then it proceeded to beat the crap out of me for the next 25 years! Finally, I figured out that my brain wasn't going to save me. My spirit was. I stopped trying to think my way out of suffering and accept that (as Matt said) everything is as it should be. It didn't stop life from being painful, but it stopped me from making it more painful by resisting it.
There is a saying in Buddhism that pain is mandatory, suffering is optional.
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