Take care -- you could be making the problem worse by allowing it to go on this long
Obviously, TCB, I am not a doctor, but I have had the same symptoms for years.
First, I was given Zantac, the omeprazole (still working) but now I have to have an upper and lower endoscopes? (sp?) to find the source of the pain.
I hope you can find some relief, cause I know how pain can slow you down. It's a distraction.
Your husband wants life to remain as it is, he is in charge this way. Please don't let him know about anything. (I am recovering, so I remember how I wanted to control, it is an illusion that I gave up, but it was hard.)
Now it is about survival for you and your kids. He can continue to live his miserable life without you and your children. If he gets a hint that things are changing he will want to preserve what he has now. Desperation and alcohol do not mix.
I wish I could load up the phone I have and send it to you. (yep, i am codified
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Be calm and cool. Think before you act.
I will be sending good vibes and there are many who have been on your path with good advice.
Sending strength to you.
Beth
:ghug3