My boundaries are that I will not allow him to use drugs, or bring them into the house, without consequences (either more treatment, or a visit from the police).
I also will not drive him anywhere except to meetings, or buy him anything beyond food and shelter, if he does not follow the rules of the house.
The rules are on the refrigerator, where he can see them. He also read them over before he left rehab, and we negotiated a few points. They have to do with electronics use, curfew, friends, sleepovers, and some general, basic stuff--everything from chores to "sunday is family day."
the counselor read them over before she gave them to my son, and she said they were fair.
Just so it's clear, he's done a great job of following the rules so far. I don't expect perfection--he IS 15 years old.
