Zoso, don't look now, but your recovery is showing. I know this must be painful for you and you will have moments of sadness, but seeing it for what it is, is such a huge step.
I think that anytime we become too enmeshed in someone else's life, it is a healthy thing to take a giant step back and look at it from a better perspective.
You will be okay. Al-anon will surround you with support and friends who truly care.
Let today be a new beginning, a fresh start at a wonderful future.
Hugs