My only al anon tip is try out several meetings. I live in a small town too. There are many many AA meetings and two al anon ones. One is during the day and I work. So that leaves one. I don't love it and don't go regularly. But I did at first and have a sponsor and work with her a LOT and come here a lot.
Don't feel you have to love al anon right away or a meeting if it doesn't sit well. Try out several different meetings (I did find several outside of my town I like but it is not always practical to go bc I am alone with my kids and not always able to get a sitter to go) would be my advice.
And come here often and read a lot. This site has been invaluable to me in my on going attempts to recover from codependency and being as sick as my AH in my enabling and distorted thinking.