WTBH-
I had a similiar situation in how I felt yesterday with my boss. I really struggled to not take it on I think what he feels about himself as if it was mine.
I have also found that my friendships are really changing as my recovery progresses.
My counselor told me once that often others don't like it when our "codie" ways change...it is a big threat to what they perceive as their wellbeing. In my case I was not willing to be a doormat anymore, but no one was used to me standing up for myself.
This excerpt is posted in multiple places around my world and I use it when I am struggling to gain footing for myself. I don't know if it will strike you the same way. This inspires me to keep working on me.
The Individual has always had
to struggle to keep from
Begin overwhelmed by the tribe.
If you try it, you will be
lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is
too high to pay for the
privilage of owning yourself.
Nietzsche