Originally Posted by
doggonecarl 
I am not sure it matters what our thoughts and experiences are...it is what you boyfriend is thinking and experiencing. And he thinks that by continuing to drink and verbally abuse him, you don't love him.
Work on your staying sober and this will become a non-issue. Drink and you may find the truth of the situation is that he's tired of tolerating it.
I wish you the best, as recovery has been an ongoing struggle for you.
Well actually, it does matter what other alcoholics have experienced, thought or felt! That is what a forum is, people sharing and talking about how it was for them. Makes us feel not so alone in this very very lonely disease. And yes, I have been struggling for a while, but don't we all struggle before we find sobriety?