Hi 3rd Bird,
When I am in turmoil, and things aren't clear, I have to realize that this is the time I have to be patient. It's tough not knowing the outcome of someone else's actions. But there are no pat answers. No one can make your decisions for you. People can give you advice, but it's your life, and you are responsible for your actions and decisions. People can share their experience, strength and hope with you, but that is their experience.
You are not wrong to want to save a relationship. But we are powerless over others' choices and decisions. Only time will tell what another person will do.
The meetings may not take away the pain, but they do provide support and encouragement through this rough time. In the mean time, it's just a mean time. Keep focussing on your recovery, and as things play out, you will find resolve. I wish there was a quick fix or instant answer to this, but there isn't. Praying for some peace and healing to come your way soon. Magic