Ms. Timmy
In my case it could be someone who is making to much noise, kids trash talking each other, (calling each other dumb, stupid, ugly) which we don't allow in our home, someone being critical of me (which makes me revert to that frightened child), someone being disrespectful (a clerk at the store or a customer service rep on the phone), I had made a comment to the ref at my daughters softball game last summer and another parent told me to "shut up" now that is like a red flag in front of a bull for me because if I ever talked back at home I was first told to shut up and then it was followed by the literal boot in my a$$.